My partner said “no” to me booking a photoshoot.
This is a complicated topic, and I want to handle it delicately as all relationships are different and I am not in a position to tell my clients what is best for them.
If you want to book a boudoir session, but your partner doesn't want you to, I encourage you to have a calm conversation with them about why you want to do it, and to hopefully find out why they feel like you should not.
A lot of times, the reason why spouses don't want their significant others to do a boudoir session is because they actually don't know what it is or how it works. They think it's going to be overtly sexual and that a ton of people will be watching or will eventually see the pictures.
Here are a few key points about our studio you can share with your partner to hopefully comfort them about this process so that you feel more comfortable booking your session with us.
We are a female-only business
Our professional and private studio is located in a historic hotel
We are a legitimate business that is fully insured and licensed.
Our studio has photographs over 120 women per year.
All of our retouching is done by myself, Constance, the photographer
All of our printing companies are professional grade and a female-only based staff, they have policies in place to protect your images.
The only people present for your photoshoot are you and me.
You will not be pressured to go beyond your boundaries. I ask a lot fo questions to make sure you are comfortable and give you options with posing.
We are a PG-13 studio, meaning we don't photograph genitalia.
Your images will NOT be shared online, unless you give us permission.
You do NOT have to go nude at all, unless you decide you want to.
Probably the biggest key point is that these images do not have to be for anyone else but yourself. You are doing this session to feel beautiful, empowered, strong, and confident. Oftentimes we lose that in motherhood, or our careers, or just throughout day-to-day life, and we need to be reminded that we are more than just a mom, a partner, an employee, etc.
Hopefully these points will help reassure your partner that we are a professional business, and not just a random person with a camera and a bed! This can sometimes be a pretty heated topic for couples, but we always encourage healthy conversation regarding it.
If there is anything we can do to assist you in this, please don't hesitate to reach out!